DEAR HARRIETTE: I’m seeking guidance on how to handle a challenging situation with a close friend. Lately, I've noticed that my friend has become consistently negative and draining to be around. It feels like every conversation turns into a litany of complaints or pessimistic outlooks on life. I understand that right now the world is unforgiving and she is going through a lot. She lost her job seven months ago and still can’t seem to find another one, and her boyfriend recently broke up with her. While I care deeply about my friend and want to be there for her during these tough times, I find myself feeling emotionally exhausted after spending time together. It's starting to take a toll on my mental well-being, and I'm unsure of how to navigate this situation without damaging our friendship. How can I support my friend without absorbing her negativity? -- Negative Friend
DEAR NEGATIVE FRIEND: As much as you love your friend, you must establish boundaries for your personal health. Tell her that. Express your love and commitment to her as you also state clearly that you do not have the tools to take on her pain without boundaries. Set limits on how frequently and how long you will engage with her in person, on the phone, through text, etc. When that time is up, leave.