DEAR HARRIETTE: My family has five women -- four sisters and me -- and it has become a silent tradition that for each sibling's wedding, the next in line serves as the maid of honor.
This year, it's my turn to get married, and, being the fourth sibling, I should be asking my youngest sister. I'm not super-close to my younger sister due to an eight-year age gap. (I’m 31.) I'm considering asking my best friend to be my maid of honor instead because she has truly been my support system throughout the relationship, but I'm hesitant because I don't want to regret breaking our family tradition. What are your thoughts on this situation? -- Bridesmaid in Question
DEAR BRIDESMAID IN QUESTION: Weddings are among the most traditional experiences a family hosts. It could hurt your sister’s feelings deeply for you to break the tradition. You can invite her to be your maid of honor and give her a few duties while you let your best friend know that you want her to support you and your sister. Rather than taking the role from either of them, ask them to work together to fulfill the various tasks that must be handled. Make your best friend a bridesmaid and let her know how important she is to you as you start your new life.