DEAR HARRIETTE: My heart is broken because my mentor and his wife have died a premature death. As I take a moment to reflect, I am grateful and honored that he took the time to cultivate my gifts and talents. My mentor made me the man that I am today, and I will be forever indebted to him in my memories. My family will attend his funeral, and I would like to know the best way I can honor him. -- Lost my Mentor, Atlanta
DEAR LOST MY MENTOR: I am sorry to hear about your loss. You already see the grace in his life, which is a blessing. If you feel capable of staying grounded while speaking, you could offer to your minister's family to speak at the wake or even at the funeral. Having people attest to the great life that someone has lived upon his passing helps to bring wonderful memories to life and allows guests to join those who are mourning in a loving experience of remembrance.
Of course, you can also honor your mentor and his wife by leading a life that is reflective of all that he taught you. Keep his memory alive by talking about the lessons you learned and how you are applying them on a daily basis.