DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm having a problem with a girl I met a couple of years ago but haven't spoken with very much since. Meanwhile, she desperately wants to be friends. We are Facebook friends, and she contacted me via Facebook for my birthday. After she saw that I went to an event, she wrote that we should video chat, using a lot of exclamation points and emoticons, as if we're best friends. Even though I never messaged her back, she doesn't seem to get the hint that I'm not interested in being friends. What should I do? -- Being Stalked, Seattle
DEAR BEING STALKED: You can "unfriend" her on Facebook if you are prepared to make it clear that you no longer want anything to do with her. Or you can simply not respond to her when she goes overboard with her familiarities. Or you can write to her to ask her to cool it. The one caveat with the latter option is that any communication may prove to be too exciting for her if it means that you are interacting. Best is to cut your ties.