DEAR HARRIETTE: Every week at church, one of our church members brings me a little present. It might be a handkerchief that she had when she was a young woman or a newspaper clipping that she thought I would like. I have always thanked her for these treats, but I don't know if I should be doing something more. How can I show her my gratitude? She is an elder in the church with no family. -- Showing Appreciation, Jackson, Mississippi
DEAR SHOWING APPRECIATION: If you are up for it, talk to this church elder and find out if she would like to have tea sometime. Or ask her if you can help her in any way. I used to help my great-aunt write out her holiday cards. There are many tasks that elders can potentially use help completing. Offer!
(Lifestylist and author Harriette Cole is president and creative director of Harriette Cole Media. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Universal Uclick, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)