DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Is it normal to be happily married and still have a crush on someone?
My husband and I have only been married for less than a year, and there is this guy at my gym who makes me tingle every time I see him.
I seriously love my husband and don’t have any thoughts of cheating or anything like that, but there is something about this guy that makes me look. --- CRUSHING
DEAR CRUSHING: I believe it’s both natural and normal to have mild, innocent crushes at any point in your life, even if you’re in a committed relationship.
So long as everything stays mild and innocent, you’ll most likely find that in time your crush will become just another fellow regular at the gym, one who can make you blush, perhaps, but who’s not the reason you’re there.
If, on the other hand, you find yourself actively seeking more than superficial interaction with this man, then if you’re as committed to your husband as you say you are, I’d advise you to change your gym schedule, although I’d like to think that won’t be necessary.