DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My mother-in-law tells me my husband was sleeping through the night by the time he was a month old. He told me he expects that our baby should be able to do that too and that I am not doing the right thing by not putting our six-week old son on a regular schedule.

I believe a newborn is going to follow his own schedule. He isn’t going to fall into line with his Daddy’s expectations just because he thinks he should.

Shouldn’t a baby be let to follow his own schedule? --- FOLLOWING NATURE

DEAR FOLLOWING NATURE: My experience with babies is that just like adults, no two behave exactly alike. Eventually it should be more possible and is most certainly a good idea to get him on a schedule, for his sake and yours. At six weeks, however, that’s likely a bit of an impossible mission.

I’d suggest you check with your pediatrician for recommendations on setting a schedule for your newborn. Online sources may give you general guidelines, but your baby’s doctor has a direct connection to you and your baby and ought to have insights specific to your situation.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: When I started in pharmaceutical sales it was because I thought it was a good use of my BS in biology and I have a desire to help make life better for people. Even my parents warned me I was being an idealist. I really don’t mind. I am good at what I do and am lucky to work for a company with a solid reputation and strong track record.

There was a guy I used to run up against from another pharma company who we literally called “The Shark” because of how hard he sold his company’s product. That company currently has major legal issues and now this guy is one of my coworkers. Since he got here the vibe in sales has totally changed.

This guy is pushing into not only his old company’s territories, which he was obviously brought in to do, but is starting to poach existing clients from others of us in sales. What we sometimes hear coming out of his mouth is hard to believe. He will say or do anything to close even a small deal.

We know he’s impressing our VP, but the rest of us say at what cost to the company’s reputation and our commissions?

Doesn’t management see that the short-term gains could hurt our company in the long-run when some of his tactics backfire? --- A SHARK IN THE TANK

DEAR A SHARK IN THE TANK: Companies are in business to thrive, and it sounds like your new fellow salesperson is helping yours do just that, which makes it unlikely management will find fault with his tactics so long as he continues to help their bottom line.

I can imagine how discouraging his behavior is to you and the other members of the sales staff who continue to keep true to what you see as the mission and philosophy of the company.

The new guy may misstep at some point, but in the meantime, don’t feel you need to become more like him to be successful. At the end of the day, you should measure your success by your own standards, not those of others.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: When my father got remarried I was happy for him. I only met my new stepmother a few times before the wedding and she seemed OK. My Dad had been alone for years and it seemed like a normal thing to want to be with someone.

Now I have got to know my stepmother I know she is a horrible person in many ways. She has pushed a wedge between me and Dad and my sister told me it is the same with her and our father.

Not only is this woman horrible but she has a daughter six years younger than me and she is as much of a bi#ch as her mother, maybe even more of one based on what she has shown every time I have had to be around her.

I love my Dad and don’t want to cut him out of my life, but I don’t think I can take being around his new wife and stepdaughter from hell.

The last time I had dinner with my Dad I told him that I am not comfortable with his new family and he took it hard.

Did I make a mistake telling him how I feel? --- HURT HIS FEELINGS

DEAR HURT HIS FEELINGS: Whether it was right or wrong is a moot point since your conversation with your dad is in the past. You were honest with him, and although what you had to say hurt him, he now knows how you feel about his new wife and stepdaughter.

Hopefully you’ll be able to work through your resentments and find ways to still have time with your father. It’s most likely not easy for him to find himself caught between his two families, so having some support from you and your sister might make a big difference for him, especially if down the road he comes to a conclusion similar to yours about the new women in his life.