DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: So far I have only been with three guys. All of them were people I was with for at least a few weeks or months.
My younger sister has done at least three times that many guys so far and tells me I am missing out on a lot of fun.
I don’t see it that way. I want to have a real connection with a guy before I sleep with him. She thinks I’m wrong, but am I?
Is there something I am missing out on? --- NOT INTO IT
DEAR NOT INTO IT: I don’t see anything wrong with your wanting to limit your sex life to partners for whom you have feelings.
That’s what works for you, and you needn’t feel wrong about it or pressured to follow your sister’s philosophy.
She knows what works for her and you should be equally confident in what you’re comfortable with.