DEAR ABBY: I married for the second time two years ago to a younger woman. Seven months after our wedding, she announced she didn't like my dominating personality, which is why she was stepping out of the marriage. She then went back to her deadbeat ex-boyfriend for six months. I went for counseling and have made a major change in how I treat, talk and make decisions with her. I love my wife with all my heart. I want to protect our marriage and move forward from the affair.

Our second anniversary is approaching, but she has been interacting with other men. She takes her daughter with another man on play-dates along with his daughter, and goes to the park with another man for three hours. (He was a single dad having a BBQ.) The third one is a guy she goes with to the park, splash pads, public swimming pool and a water-slide park. They text each other often. One guy is a married stay-at-home dad. He has cheated on his wife before.

Am I wrong to think this is unacceptable for a married woman? Any advice would be absolutely appreciated. -- BEWILDERED IN CANADA

DEAR BEWILDERED: It's time for joint counseling, with a new therapist for you and your wife. I can't think of a better way to drive her away than continuing to obsess about what she "may" be doing on these outings. It is hard to envision her carrying on flagrantly with a child in tow; the activities you describe seem distinctly family-oriented to me. It appears you still expect her to conform to your idea of how a married woman "should" behave, or you're having serious trust issues. More counseling for you may be in order if your marriage is going to last.

DEAR ABBY: I've been with my boyfriend for four years. Over those years, he has acquired an addiction to porn. He refuses to admit he is addicted and insists that it's perfectly normal. I'm usually not one to judge, but it has reached the point that it's affecting our sex life.

I can't remember the last time we had a moment to ourselves that didn't start with him spending all day watching porn. I tried getting involved with it myself hoping we'd find a common interest we could bond over, but he doesn't seem to want me involved at all.

I feel like I'm being cheated on, as silly as that sounds. I'm struggling with my body image because of this. I feel like I'm never going to be adequate enough for him to focus on our sex life. How do I compete with porn? -- SHUT OUT IN VIRGINIA

DEAR SHUT OUT: You don't. Tell your boyfriend that his reliance on porn is negatively affecting your self-esteem and you are no longer willing to be involved with him because of it. If he's in love with you and willing to work on the problem, there are resources available to him. (Twelve-step programs come immediately to mind.) If he isn't, however, accept that this has nothing to do with your level of attractiveness, and move on.

DEAR ABBY: I had a close friend, "Kayleigh," for about 10 years. She helped me through tough times and was always there for me. Now I feel like she has turned into someone else. For the last six months, she has been putting down everyone I love, even in front of my daughter. She sees no problem with it, nor does she have any remorse.

Kayleigh doesn't have a healthy relationship with her family or in her love life. I believe I'm her only friend. When she does this, I feel like she's disrespecting me. I have talked to her about it, but she never apologizes. She gets defensive and says it's "just her opinion, it shouldn't matter and I shouldn't stay mad."

I have told Kayleigh things in confidence, but she's thrown them in my face, which made me feel insecure and small. I no longer talk to her about these issues because sometimes she brings it up with a jab. I can't be friends with someone who acts this way. I have stopped talking to her, but now I'm having a hard time not feeling guilty. Advice? -- FRIENDLESS IN MISSOURI

DEAR FRIENDLESS: Why would you continue to confide in someone who might use the information to make you feel bad? Backing away from a relationship like that is healthy. I have said before that not all friendships last forever, and this appears to be one of them. Kayleigh's refusal to apologize if you tell her she has made you feel disrespected indicates she doesn't care about the effect her comment had on you. Quit flogging yourself and get on with your life.

DEAR ABBY: Some friends of ours agreed to housesit for my wife and me recently while we were on a weeklong cruise. They live in a small condo. We have a large house in a golf course community, so they welcomed the opportunity. To show our appreciation, we gave them a $200 gift card to use at the golf course (they are golfers).

When we returned, we learned they had invited four of their family members to spend several nights at our house, and used our bedroom and my office as sleeping quarters. It was apparent the guests had departed shortly before our return because there were piles of wet towels in the laundry room, and our beds still had their slept-in linens.

My wife and I feel betrayed and hurt by what our friends did, and we told them how we felt. Their reaction was that they thought they didn't "have" to wash their dirty linens. Were we at fault for not doing a better job explaining our expectations when we asked them to housesit? -- INVADED IN WASHINGTON

DEAR INVADED: This couple may be friends, but their manners are atrocious. They should not have invited anyone to spend the night in your home without first receiving permission. That you returned to find dirty linens on your beds and soiled towels is disgusting. None of what transpired is your fault. You should not have had to leave a list of rules for these presumptuous people. Find other housesitters and don't invite them again.

DEAR ABBY: My father, who is 84, just had a mild stroke. The problem is he wants to drive his car. My sister says we should just let him, but I don't think he's capable of driving safely anymore. She says we can't legally stop him from driving.

Dad has occasional dizzy spells and double vision, which started the day he had a stroke several weeks ago. He has also lost a lot of weight and has been told he needs to eat a heart-healthy diet and eat more. Dad has diabetes and high cholesterol. He has had problems with his memory lately, too, and not just age-related. He can't remember details from doctors' appointments, forgets to take his blood pressure a couple times a day and can't remember what he is supposed to do for physical therapy.

I think we should be taking care of Dad now and driving him wherever he needs to go. I personally do not want him endangering himself or others if he drives. Please advise. -- CAUTIOUS IN CALIFORNIA

DEAR CAUTIOUS: It's time for a serious family discussion about how to handle this. Your father needs a lot more help than chauffeur service. He needs someone to accompany him to doctors' appointments, and someone to supervise or administer his medications. He should not be behind the wheel of a car, and I'm not even sure he should be living alone. His doctor should be contacted about informing the DMV about your father's health status. He may also need assisted living if it's financially feasible.

DEAR ABBY: I am 40 years old, and I have been eating a plant-based diet since high school. I'm in great shape, and my doctor is very pleased with my health status. For more than two decades, friends and family have worn me down to where I am running short on gracious responses when it comes to them challenging what I put on my plate. Many times, people feel the need to mention at work or at a party that I'm vegan (I don't know why), and the room immediately is focused on me. Then someone always asks how I get my protein.

I usually try to keep the mood light, so I answer them. But I have grown tired of being questioned because more often than not, it doesn't stop. They want me to go into detail about why I eat what I eat (or don't eat). They tell me how they couldn't be healthy or couldn't give up cheese. I get stuck in the middle of a monologue that feels a lot like I'm being bullied and judged.

I don't want to feel pushed around, but I also want to keep it light. How can I tell them I don't want to discuss my eating habits without sounding rude? I don't judge them and would like the same respect. -- PROUD VEGAN IN OREGON

DEAR VEGAN: Sometimes it ain't what you say, but how you say it. If you can muster a smile when you reply, "I came here to have a good time, not discuss my diet. Let's change the subject," it might end the discussion. Follow it up with, "What's everybody watching on Netflix?"