DEAR ABBY: My husband has, for years, felt the need to talk filthy and ask sexual questions of other women. It bothers me something terrible. He's upset that I ruin his "fun," and insists he isn't hurting anyone and that he likes being the life of the party. We have fought over this for years, and I'm exhausted from it.

I told him I don't see the need for him to do this, and he continues to tell me I need to quit being so unreasonable. I don't know what to do, and I'm ready to just give up. It doesn't make me love or respect him. I actually loathe him when he does it. Please help. -- REPELLED IN IOWA

DEAR REPELLED: It's sad that your husband would continue to do something he knows embarrasses you. You can't change him, so it's time to change the way you react to his outrageous behavior. Try ignoring him and distancing yourself when it happens.

It would be interesting to know how his questions affect the women he's asking. Do they consider him to be the life of the party or just a (possibly) drunken boor? Because you have already talked to him until you're blue in the face, start talking to them. Perhaps, if you present a united front, he will stop.

DEAR ABBY: I am getting married in a few months, and half of my bridesmaids recently colored their hair unnatural colors. Their new hair colors clash with the color of the dresses we've chosen as well as the overall theme of my wedding.

At first, it didn't bother me because I used to have wild hair, too. I get it. However, I was once in a wedding where the bride asked me to keep my hair a natural color for her big day, and I didn't have any issue with her asking. Now I'm wondering if that is the norm. I also know it costs an arm and a leg to color a full head of hair, so I'm afraid it would be awful of me to ask them to undo what they just did.

Because I'm new to the wedding scene, I feel like my bridesmaids should have run this by me first, since we have only a couple months left before my big day. Would it be inappropriate to talk to my ladies about their new hair colors? -- HAIR IN THE WEST

DEAR HAIR: I don't think it would be inappropriate to talk to your bridesmaids about your concerns. However, if they are unwilling to change, try to remember the reason you chose these friends. I sincerely hope it was for attributes other than their looks.

DEAR ABBY: How do I convince my liberal parents that my bisexuality is not a phase? I'm 16, and I just came out. My mom told me she'd "had a gay phase, too." I don't want conflict, but I'm also pretty hurt. How do I convince them to take me seriously? -- BI GIRL IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR GIRL: Your mother was not trying to hurt or diminish what you told her. In fact, she told you something important about herself -- that she, too, has been attracted to both men and women. Don't waste your time trying to "convince" her of anything. Live your life authentically and you will be just fine.

DEAR ABBY: My daughter is the youngest kid in the neighborhood, and a girl up the street treats her horribly. She calls her a baby, tells her she's not a person and sends her home when everybody plays at her house.

The other kids are friendly with my daughter, and when they come to play at our house, the mean girl comes too. She's never mean to my daughter when I'm around, but I don't think it's right to let her enjoy our pool and games when she won't let my daughter play at her house.

How do I ask her to leave without seeming like a bully while allowing the other kids to stay and play? The other mother is of no help. -- WANTS THE BULLY TO LEAVE

DEAR WANTS THE BULLY TO LEAVE: I assume the other mother is aware that her daughter refuses to allow your daughter to play at her house with the other kids. Because she hasn't intervened, the ball is in your court. Teach your daughter a lesson in assertiveness. The next time the bully shows up, your daughter should tell the girl she is not welcome and why.

DEAR ABBY: We made plans on Sunday to get together with a couple the following Friday. We do this regularly. An hour before, I texted to be sure we were still on. I didn't receive an immediate reply. A half-hour later, I called and was told yes. I replied, "Great! See you soon."

Five minutes later, she texted me to say they were going out to dinner because friends from out of state had surprised them and "maybe tomorrow we can get together." We are very disappointed in our close friends who made plans with us but changed their minds. Are we wrong to feel hurt? We could have changed our plans because some out-of-state friends showed up, but we didn't. -- HURT ON THE EAST COAST

DEAR HURT: I understand your feelings, but I hope you won't nurse a grudge. Your friends made a snap decision on the spur of the moment which, unfortunately, lacked tact. It might have been better if, when these out-of-state friends appeared on their doorstep, the couple had contacted you and asked if they could bring the people along. They dropped the ball. Forgive them -- this time.

DEAR ABBY: What does it mean when our daughter's mother-in-law refuses to call my husband and me by our first names? In fact, she doesn't call us anything. I bend over backward to be hospitable and treat her the way we want to be treated. -- NAMELESS IN THE EAST

DEAR NAMELESS: How DOES she address you? "Mr." and "Mrs."? "Hey, you"? "Dear" or "Sweetie"? Have you told her this bothers you? It may mean she doesn't particularly like either of you and this is her way of distancing. It could also mean that she can't remember what your names are. You can't go wrong if you continue treating her as you want to be treated and try harder not to take this so personally.

DEAR ABBY: My husband, "Randall," was a widower when we met. His wife, "Sylvia," had passed away in November 2010. We got married in October 2015. I recently was shocked to discover that Randall has kept Sylvia's Facebook page open, supposedly so his grandchildren can send her messages on her birthday or anytime they feel like it.

Last September, he posted a message that read: "Happy Anniversary. Love you and miss you. 52 years today." (If she were still living, that day would have marked 52 years of marriage.) When I read it, I realized that, in his heart, he still feels married to her. Am I wrong for feeling that way? -- ONE OF TWO WIVES

DEAR ONE: I don't think you are wrong, but please understand that some people don't completely get over the death of a loved one, and your husband may be one of them. It's not that unusual, if my Facebook is any example. People post about their departed parents, grandparents and even their pets, and memorial pages on Facebook after a person's demise are not unusual. If you and Randall have a good marriage, I suggest you develop a sense of humor about it. Sylvia is not a threat to you unless you make her one. Knowing that may lighten your load.

DEAR ABBY: I buy pet food from a small local pet shop. (The store does not sell animals, only food and supplies. I support adoption.) I'm a regular customer and have been on a first-name basis with the owner, "Alicia," for several years. When I went to buy my dog's food the other day, she was wearing a scarf to cover her head. She has always had shoulder-length hair. It was obvious that she's ill. (I suspect breast cancer.) I didn't know what to do. I hoped my face did not give me away. I just proceeded as I normally do -- made small talk and completed my purchase.

The next time I go there, should I continue to act like I don't notice? Should I ask Alicia if she's ill? I felt uncomfortable pretending not to notice. However, I feel it would be intrusive to say something. Please advise. -- ANIMAL LOVER IN FLORIDA

DEAR ANIMAL LOVER: If Alicia wants to discuss her medical condition with you, she will allude to it. If she does, listen to her and offer a supportive comment. Many people seem unable to restrain themselves from asking inappropriate questions, however well-intentioned. Among them are likely some of her other customers. Don't be one of them.

DEAR ABBY: We are a middle-aged couple who live together. I have been with "Jack" for seven years, and during those seven years, he held down one job for only three months and then quit. I love him, but I don't believe the feeling is mutual if he can't hold down a job and keep it. He never goes anywhere with me. Jack is a recluse. What should I do? Should I keep him or tell him it's time to pack up and leave? -- FINALLY FED UP IN OHIO

DEAR FINALLY FED UP: I don't know Jack, and you have not listed even one of his virtues. Unless your idea of a happy future is supporting a recluse who refuses to hold a steady job, it's time to sing, "Hit the road, Jack!"