DEAR ABBY: I am engaged to an amazing guy. We have been together a little more than two years. During our first year, his family was great to me. They acted as if they liked me. However, things have changed. When my fiance and I are around them, they just wave and have little to say to me, if they say anything at all. They never call or text me; I'm always the one to do it first. Several times when I have texted, they haven't replied.
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My fiance is very supportive. He tells me things will get better and tries to make me feel better about it, but I'm starting to get the impression they don't like me. Also, I don't feel I have anything in common with his mother and sister, which makes me feel even more awkward. I have tried to be friendly and to nurture a relationship with them, but I'm getting no effort in return. If you have any advice, please share. -- UNLIKED IN KENTUCKY
DEAR UNLIKED: If you and your fiance have a good relationship, stop obsessing about his family. They may have made a fuss over you in the beginning because you were "new." Now a year has passed, and the novelty has worn off. I'm sorry your relationship with his family hasn't turned out to be what you envisioned it would be, but life can be like that. So take this step by step.
Nurture the relationships you have with friends, other couples and your own family. Relax, enjoy the life you are building with the man you love and take your cues for dealing with your future in-laws from your fiance. He knows them better than we do.