DEAR MISS MANNERS: My husband and I just moved into a new two-story home. The primary suite is on the main floor, directly under the only room that will work as a guest room.
Unfortunately, we have discovered that when we are in our bedroom, we are able to hear every little noise made in the room above.
We plan to have as many visitors, both friends and family, as will honor our home. We don't want to create any awkwardness or discomfort for our guests, but also do not wish to become aware of a guest's private matters. We know the situation is reciprocal, and can adjust our behavior accordingly.
Is it better to tactfully let our visitors know the situation so they can also have the opportunity to adjust their actions? Or to simply pretend we can't hear a thing, wear earplugs and turn on our air purifier in the hopes we don't hear anything too private?
GENTLE READER: The second. Because if you tell them, your guests will hardly be able to relax while engaging in even routine bedtime activity without worrying about bothering you. Miss Manners therefore suggests that you employ those soundproofing techniques -- and perfect your pretending.