DEAR MISS MANNERS: One of my closest childhood friends is getting married this fall. We still keep in touch regularly.
She has told me about all of the details, sent pictures of the dress, even apologized for her wedding date being on my birthday. I’ve told her that I don’t mind (this is not the first time it’s happened) and that I am still incredibly excited to celebrate with her and her soon-to-be husband.
The issue is that I have yet to receive an invitation or even a save-the-date. If this was a local wedding, I wouldn’t be concerned, but we now live on opposite sides of the country. I need to book a flight and a hotel before travel costs are sky-high.
Is there any way to politely ask about my invitation status?
GENTLE READER: How many times has your friend gotten married on your birthday?
No, Miss Manners supposes you mean that this is not the first year you have spent your birthday celebrating an unrelated event. In any case, the next time your friend talks to you about the wedding, ask a related question, such as, "When are you sending out the invitations?"