DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a 26-year-old woman from Cincinnati. I started a new job a few months ago, and I’ve developed a crush on one of my co-workers. He’s kind and funny, and we get along really well. I look forward to seeing him at work, and I think there might be a spark between us. However, I’m hesitant to make a move because I’m worried about the potential consequences. What if I ask him out and he says no? Or worse, what if we go out and things don’t work out? I don’t want to create an awkward atmosphere at work or jeopardize the professional relationship we’ve built. I’ve considered just enjoying the friendship and not risking it, but I also don’t want to miss out on what could be a great relationship. Should I take the risk and ask him out, or is it better to keep things professional and see if he makes a move? -- Hot for Him
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DEAR HOT FOR HIM: Slow down. A lot is new right now. Refocus on your job. Pay attention to your tasks and the goals of your role. What you want to do first is to make a great impression on your boss and the team. Demonstrate that you are excellent at what you have been tasked to do and that you are willing to go above and beyond to support the work at hand.
You can continue to build a friendship with the man in question, but don’t pressure yourself or him to take it further. After you settle into your job, pay attention to how the friendship is growing. You don’t necessarily have to wait for him to ask you out, but do wait to make sure you are in good standing at work before seeking out romance.