Zara Daugherty, 6 years old, was talking to her therapist about a difficult subject in her life: her relationship with her father.
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The therapist suggested that they write a story and draw pictures to help her work through what she was feeling, so Zara wrote about a time when her father didn't show up to spend the day with her when he had promised to. She illustrated it with a picture of herself waiting on the front porch.
On the drive home from therapy, Zara told her mom, Mia Daugherty, about the little book she'd made. Mia asked her how she felt about it.
"Mom, I want to write a real book," Zara said. Mia assured her it was a real book, but her daughter objected.
"No, Mom. I want my book on Amazon, and I want my picture on the back."
Mia was worried about the pushback that might come if her young daughter shared such a personal story. She suggested writing about a less sensitive topic: What about a book on what her perfect day with her dad would look like, or about an adventure she and her mom had together?
But Zara insisted that her book had to be for other kids like her -- hurt by a parent's broken promises. Her mother relented. She contacted a children's author, who connected her to an illustrator. She created a GoFundMe to pay the illustrating and publishing costs.
A year later, Zara's book, "Broken Promise," came to fruition.
Zara, who will enter third grade in the fall, had a book signing party on her 8th birthday in May.
"I wanted to have my own story," she said. The book combines different real-life experiences and describes how Zara dealt with her sadness and anger on a day when she waited for hours and her father failed to show up.
She said her therapist taught her various tools she could use to deal with her emotions, like taking deep breaths or squeezing a toy. In her story, she screams into her pillow, which was another strategy she had learned in therapy. The story takes a happier turn when her mother plans an outing for Zara with her grandfather and uncle.
Mia said she learned over the years to have a Plan B in place on the days her daughter expected a call or visit from her dad, just in case.
Cheri Tillis, CEO of Fathers and Families Support Center in St. Louis, commended Zara for putting her story out there to help other children -- and possibly even their fathers. The nonprofit offers fathers parenting classes, legal services, employment workshops and counseling to help them be more involved in their children's lives.
Tillis points out that data shows children without an involved father are at greater risk for teen pregnancy, dropping out of school and other negative life outcomes. Some fathers of little kids might think their children are too young to remember or be upset by their absence, but they are completely wrong, she said. In fact, the disappointment and pain can be even more crushing for young kids, who can't yet understand and process situations like adults.
"Those unfilled promises can have a negative effect on a child's self-esteem," Tillis said. "They begin to wonder, 'Why isn't my father following through with these things he tells me? Is it something about me? What's wrong with me ... or (is it that) other things are more important?'"
Tillis said some fathers who are struggling financially feel they cannot see their child because they don't have money for gifts or outings.
"Being a dad is about the time spent," she said. "It's about having opportunities to bond and build the relationship ... It's not the money that children expect."
Other fathers, including those who are not married to the mother of their child, may not realize they have legal avenues to get visitation rights. That's a process the center helps fathers navigate.
I reached out to Zara's father to ask him about her book. Initially he said that he wanted to get "the truth" out about the situation. When I said I wasn't going to get into the contentious relationship between him and Zara's mother and just wanted his thoughts on the book, he didn't respond to further calls or messages.
Zara said she wants other children to know that it's still possible to have fun even though you get sad sometimes. Most importantly, "Don't let anybody get in your way of being great."
Wise words from an 8-year-old author.