DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m 26 years old and have barely any experience with women, I’ve had about 5 or 6 dates total and slept with one woman, though I felt forced into that and found out that I don’t en... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I just moved to a country different from my home country, and I met a Scandinavian guy. During the first few days of talking to him, I always had the feeling that he had no interes... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time now and I absolutely love it ! You provide a lot of advice and a lot of food for thought, sometimes brutally honest, sometimes chall... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So my girlfriend struggles with jealousy and her ex bf cheating on her. I was dumb and got nudes from other women while we were dating. I explained it to her it was my fault and it... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Me and my husband have been together 17 years. The past 2 months, he swears up and down that I have another boyfriend with a secret phone and ear phones. I know for a fact that I’m... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been seeing a friend of mine for 8 months now. I proposed that we start dating, which I wanted and still want, but she didn’t. During this time, we’ve ‘broken up’ a few times,... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I never thought your letters were true until this happened to me… ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So, a couple years ago I sent you a letter about how to be more vulnerable and open up to others. This is my update on that, with a follow-up question.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Hey Doc, so I feel like I waste years basically doing useless crap. I went to college for essentially visual arts (the only “skill” I’ve had) and even then I doubt my skills aren’t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve written in before and greatly appreciated your advice. I (25 M) have since met a lovely girl (22) and we’ve been together for about six months. She’s my first serious relation... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Without diving too deep into the details, I had a really tough upbringing, marked by a lot of neglect from different sources. Naturally, this took a toll on my confidence and self-... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Being a black man in America has its challenges. Being a nerd in black spaces wasn’t easy either. Growing up was difficult, and finding a genuine appreciation for who I am has been... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have a question about social isolation, emotional overinvestment and strategies for meeting social needs. But first, some background about myself and my problem:... more