DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am a 40-year-old man. I’ve had only one relationship in my life and it was a 5-year toxic and abusive mess. I was mentally abused, berated. While we did have sex, I was basically... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve spent the last decade trying to fix my life, and even though I’ve made some genuinely incredible progress, I still feel as if I’m failing at the basics.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Over the years, I’ve cultivated a physique, lifestyle, and sense of charisma that have opened many doors for me. I used to focus heavily on getting matches or likes on dating apps,... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My boyfriend and I have known each other since we dated many years ago. We are both “mature” adults. My problem is that BF constantly talks about his (well-used, high milage) “d--k... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So, I grew up in what did not seem at the time like an abusive household (there wasn’t any hitting! and not that much yelling!), but in retrospect, hooo boy. My mother (among other... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Longtime reader here, howdy’do and all that, and this is definitely not the letter I ever thought I would write.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m in a classic “platonic friendship with unrequited crush/oneitis” situation. Turns out my friend that I’m crushing on recently got a partner, a close friend of theirs and also a... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 22 year old student.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am aroace and terrified that no one will ever love me or invest in me emotionally. I would like a “normal” monogamous relationship in which I build a life with someone, but I kno... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Long time lurker occasional letter writer, you have helped me and many others navigate the dark and turbulent waters of non-monogamy and alternate lifestyle dating. I have been, an... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m writing to you because of a problem I’m having with my fiancé’s parents that I’m worried is only going to get worse. ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My ex-girlfriend is confusing me and I don’t know what to do about it. We broke up six months ago when her grandmother died suddenly and she told me that she realized that she didn... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have an unusual situation that I could use your help with. I (32/F) work for a fairly large company on the west coast in what can only be described as a “high-chaos” environment.... more