DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m hoping you can help me with a relationship situation that nobody seems to have any good advice for. I’m a 35-year-old bi man, and my partner (35, also male) (we’ve been togethe... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been married to a wonderful woman for 20 years but in the last year there have been big changes. She’s 47 and I’m 59 and we’re about to be empty nesters.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have one question for you. My boyfriend asked me to do golden shower some time ago.. And I accepted because it didn’t mean anything for me, and I could do it for him. But after s... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a trans woman in the beginning stages of transition. I never dated before transition, in part due to what would now be gender dysphoria; at the time I thought it was the kind o... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m an almost-41-year-old straight woman who has most of her life going well. I have a job I like, I’m active in a Unitarian fellowship, I am a member of my local DSA chapter, I am... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: There’s this girl I’ve known and been friends with for a while at work. We’re both university students, I’m 20 and she’s 21 but really, we’re less than 6 months apart. She’s shy an... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: We really are living the darkest timeline and it only seems to get more and more hopeless. From Trump and Musk getting drunk with power and the many people around you who knew what... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: What do you do when you think you’re falling out of love with someone? I’ve been married to my wife for over 15 years now. Over the course of that time, we went from being unable t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I feel like I’m stranded on a desert island when it comes to finding a meaningful relationship. I’m starting to wonder if I’m holding myself back with self-limiting beliefs, but I’... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I need your help with a very stupid problem. ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m 20 years old, I’ve never dated before, barely talk to anybody and spend most of my time alone. In fact, I’ve spent most of my time alone since I my pre-teens, and it intensifie... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m an almost 24-year-old Indian-American virgin guy with zero dating experience. Like a good portion of guys within my ethnic group, I pursued an education in a STEM field, which ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a woman who has never been a relationship before. I just discovered your blog yesterday and I wanted to ask a question. There’s this cute guy I’ve been seeing for the past year... more