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DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years, he has been open since the beginning about his porn usage, but he said he “wasn’t a huge porn guy”. Our sex life was great up until ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: A few weeks ago I went to visit my maternal grandfather and uncle (who is mentally handicapped) in Quebec’s Eastern townships, near the Vermont-Canadian border. I had come to visit ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: First of all, sorry if I have mistakes or my grammar is not perfect, I’m from Spain and English is not my main language.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So I had to tell a girl I went on a couple of dates with that I couldn’t be friends with them anymore, and I’m just wondering for feedback on the whole situation.��So essentially, I... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I hope you’re having a good holiday season. In fact, that’s why I’m writing to you: I don’t want to ruin the holidays with my issues. So here’s a quick run down of my backstory: my ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: What does it mean when my sex drive dries up with every new partner?... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 30 year old male, living on my own and mostly independent. I’m also in college after 8 years, continuing my education. When it comes to public things or social situations, I t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve written to you in the past with dating questions and you’ve been super helpful, but now I find myself in a new situation unrelated to my romantic life I have no idea how to nav... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: In all likelihood, I am an autistic person. I have not been diagnosed, but self-testing, identification with other people with autism and the testimony of people I trust suggests, y... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m in my late 20s, “pushing 30” as they say. I’ve never been in a relationship or had sex. I’ve suffered from anxiety, low self-esteem and depression much of my life, though I am t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Growing up, I had a front row seat to my parents’ divorce. Calling it ugly would be an understatement. Everything, literally everything about the process was the start of a screamin... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I wanted to ask why a lot of dating advice people will often tell guys who are stuck in life to “join a gym,” and “lose weight,” yet when women ask for advice about being stuck (and... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I met this guy on Bumble, and I am attracted to him (maybe not at first). On our first date, he expressed, “I am not ready to jump into a relationship yet. Let’s do things casually ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have a problem I don’t think I’ve seen anyone tackle before and I hope you can help me.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m currently in a situationship and facing a dilemma I never thought I’d have to face: she’s giving signs that she wants this to evolve into a relationship, and I can’t make up my ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I was talking to a group of female friends the other week, and it got onto the subject of dating and relationships. When the conversation turned to discussing my experiences, I told... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: First time, long time. Very, very long time. I am writing in because I want to date. Bad. However, I feel like I am not in a place to do so. HOWEVER, I also feel like the reason I’m... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am writing to ask for advice. My friend recently discovered that her live in boyfriend of two years was hiding $55k of credit card debt. He barely contributes to household expense... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: First of all, I am French so don’t mind my English I hope I will be understandable.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been in the best relationship of my life for the past three years. I’m 26, my boyfriend is 28. We both would like marriage and kids in our futures and we’ve both been clear abo... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m knee-deep in a complex situation with my current relationship and could really use your perspective on it.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am 30 years old, I live on my own and mostly introverted. In my free time I like to read, work out, cook and even started getting back into playing the piano again. I’ve been on s... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I read your column once in a while and never thought I’d have to be here. But lo’ and behold, here we are.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m not a person known for being succinct, but here’s the tl;dr as short as I can make it (it will not be short):... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am literally not even 20 minutes removed from my first (and probably last) experience with a sex worker. Oh man. So a little background on 1. what led to this moment, and then 2. ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years living together most that time. We both have been married and divorced. We were best friends in high school and remained frien... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m an independent woman, financially and otherwise. I have no desire to remarry and I’m not sure that I ever want to live with a man again. I also have a teenage son at home whom I... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Should I date when I am essentially a sociopath? I know this sounds weird, but hear me out. I’m not exactly some cackling TV sociopath and I certainly don’t fit the description of t... more