DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: Our eight-year-old son’s best friend “Luke’s” older brother “Max” was arrested for possession. This isn’t the first time for certain. We’ve known for some time about Max’s addiction.
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It’s really sad especially since the family is good people. From what they told us Max had problems when he was at college and started using and then started dealing, which got him kicked out and into his first legal troubles.
The mom and dad are trying to protect their younger children from what’s been happening, but it’s still been hard on them. Our son has seen Max yelling and threatening the rest of the family. We stopped letting him go over there after that, but Luke is always welcome at our house, and we’ve babysat for Luke and his little sister when the mom and dad had to deal with their oldest boy.
We think our son is old enough to be told about what drug addiction is and how Max can’t help himself right now, but that maybe he will in the future.
Do you agree eight’s old enough to have this kind of discussion? --- HE NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND
DEAR HE NEEDS TO UNDERSTAND: Your son has already witnessed some of Max’s erratic behavior, so yes, I believe it’s a good time to help him process not only what Max is going through, but how Luke and the rest of his family are affected by Max’s addiction.
If it hasn’t already, word may make its way around school about Luke’s family’s troubles and having an understanding and supportive friend in Luke’s corner could be a big help.