DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My girlfriend and some of her college friends did a long weekend to celebrate their all turning 25. From their Instagram posts it looks like it was a wild time.
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I’m totally cool with my girlfriend having a good time, but her ex shows up in most of the shots, never with her, but there and obviously part of the weekend.
She told me before she left that she didn’t think he was going to be there. They were serious until he met someone else right around the time she met me, which my girlfriend always tells me just proved they were not meant to be and we were.
I asked her if she saw much of him while they were all together, and she told me no, but he’s sure in all the backgrounds.
I don’t want to make a big deal about this, but I keep wondering if anything happened while they were together.
Would it be wrong for me to ask my girlfriend if anything happened? --- I WASN’T THERE
DEAR I WASN’T THERE: Unless you have a solid and compelling reason to believe your girlfriend isn’t being truthful, I think you’re better off giving her the benefit of the doubt and accepting her version of the weekend.
It doesn’t sound like the photos show anything beyond a group of friends having fun together, and if you’re going to move forward with your girlfriend, you’ll have to learn to trust her and what she tells you.
Distrust isn’t a foundation for healthy relationships.