DEAR ABBY: My next-door neighbors, whom I have become close with, have three adult children. My friends admit it's always been important for them to be their children's friends and be the "popular" parents, enforcing no discipline/guidance ever in their children's lives, still to this day.
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The 19-year-old daughter has drug and alcohol problems and recently lost control at a friend's house while under the influence. Her parents were called to pick her up. They called me on their way home and asked if I could help to get her under control. When they arrived, the daughter was screaming and violently beating up her mother in the back seat. She kicked out the side window of the car and was urinating everywhere. She was suicidal.
We got her out of the car, and she continued to be combative, screaming repeatedly that she wanted to die. I told them I was going to call 911 and they turned on me telling me, "Absolutely not!" They just wanted help to get her inside and tie her to the furniture and let her sleep it off. I couldn't believe what I was hearing.
They dragged her by her arms on the ground into the house, where the screaming and fighting escalated. I called the police. She was transported to the hospital on a 5150, 72-hour hold. Now they are mad at me. I feel I did the right thing, especially since they chose to involve me and given what the alternative could have been. Was I wrong? Or do I need to reevaluate the friendship? -- INTERVENING IN ARIZONA
DEAR INTERVENING: By all means, reevaluate your friendship with this clueless couple, who should be thanking you. Their daughter needs far more help than her parents could provide by tying her to the furniture. She needs intervention, as well as psychological and medical treatment. You not only did nothing wrong by calling 911, you did everything right.