DEAR ABBY: I met a young man on Facebook. He is a philanthropist, and we have been talking for more than six months. He's kind and sweet, and he tells me he loves me. He works around the world as an interior designer and will be returning to the States in a couple of weeks.

The problem is, I'm 30 years older than he is. He has seen photos of me and thinks I am beautiful and a good woman. I am stressed about meeting him because he wants a life together, even though I have shared all of my health issues. Please help me. I have tried to end it because of the age difference, but he gets very upset, and so we go on. I do care about him. What should I do? -- WAFFLING IN GEORGIA

DEAR WAFFLING: Tread very carefully! Although you have communicated over the last six months, he may not "quite" be the person he has presented himself to be. Make no commitments until you have actually met him in person. Hold on to your skepticism and do not give him money for ANY reason, because things that seem too good to be true often are.

DEAR ABBY: I'm dating a single dad with a teenage daughter who lives with him full time. His daughter's mother lives in the same town but rarely sees her. Mom does not want me to meet her daughter and offered the solution of taking her daughter to live with her.

Six months later, Mom has yet to commit to actually having her daughter live with her. Because of this, I am no longer spending time at my boyfriend's home, and it's driving a wedge between us. We've been dating for a year and a half, and I'm now at my wits' end. HELP! -- WAITING IN NEW JERSEY

DEAR WAITING: Your boyfriend's relationship with the mother of his child is not a healthy one. She doesn't have custody of her daughter and she shouldn't be dictating to whom the daughter is introduced. Ask him if he still feels the same about you that he did six months ago. If he says he does, suggest you get couples counseling because it feels like his ex has driven a wedge between you. His response should indicate the direction your relationship is headed.

DEAR ABBY: My brother lost his wife of 30-plus years to COVID. Because we live several states apart and I have significant chronic health issues of my own, I haven't been able to spend as much time with him as I would like.

I call often just to check in, but wish I could do more to help him through his sorrow. The first anniversary of her death is approaching, and I'm uncertain how to handle it. Any advice is deeply appreciated. -- CHECKING IN THE EAST

DEAR CHECKING: Because your health issues prevent you from traveling to see your brother, why not invite him to come for a visit? That way, you could be supportive, and he could have a therapeutic change of scene. If that's not possible, the next best thing would be to video chat with him, which would enable you to meet face-to-face from time to time.

DEAR ABBY: My son is engaged to a girl we all love, but recently, there's been an issue. My husband was at their house while my son's fiancee was finishing up getting ready for their date night. (They live 10 minutes from us, and my husband has been there often since his retirement.) When she was done, she came downstairs, told my husband they were leaving and ordered my son to follow her to the car. My son said nothing at the time. This upset my husband greatly because he values time with our son, who's our only child.

Later on, my husband and I spoke with her, saying we didn't appreciate her attitude. She countered by saying they had a reservation and my husband rambles and is oblivious to the concept that other people don't always have the time to engage with him. She then brought up several instances in which my husband made my son late for something. When we asked our son, we were shocked to find he agreed with her! He said he didn't want to bring it up himself because it made him uncomfortable. My husband does like to talk, but I hardly see it as an issue.

Abby, I'm worried. I find her behavior grossly inconsiderate. I don't want my son marrying some bossy woman who will order him around and refuses to see our side. She said she'll speak with us about this further only if we agree to see a counselor to discuss "all our issues." I didn't know we have issues. My son has never said anything before, but when we asked, he said he agreed with her. What do we do? -- FLABBERGASTED IN-LAWS

DEAR IN-LAWS: Take a step back and stop trying to defend your husband and your son, who should have spoken up before his fiancee felt she had to. If you want a relationship with your son and his future wife, take her up on her suggestion to visit a family therapist together. If you do, it may give each of you an opportunity to air your grievances and to work out an agreement that may satisfy all of you and prevent more problems of this sort in the future.

DEAR ABBY: For years, I have traveled with my cousin to my two time-shares. She's now in her mid-70s and has become grumpy and unpleasant. She complains often about various health issues, and there may be some dementia involved. I am more stoic, so I find this grating, especially during a vacation in which I want to relax. I'd really rather she not come. How do I broach this in a compassionate manner? She tends to get emotional. -- READY FOR CHANGE IN TEXAS

DEAR READY: When the subject of a vacation comes up with your cousin, tell her you realize she isn't feeling as well as she used to and ask what her doctor is doing about it. If she says she hasn't talked about it with a doctor, tell her you would like her to do that before you travel together, because it is clear to you that she no longer enjoys these vacations, which makes you enjoy them less.

DEAR ABBY: My nephew-to-be has just turned 14. He has older parents (his mom was 42 when he was born) and is so socially inept that we fear for his future. His mom is more than a helicopter parent -- she still orders his food for him at restaurants. My son is 15 and very different -- he's mature, has a job, takes honor classes and is an outgoing joy to be around. I know all children are not the same, and I try not to compare them, because, frankly, there is no comparison.

My fiance and I are worried about the boy's future if he's never out from under his mother's wing. His grandparents are worried as well. Problem is, my fiance's sister is beyond controlling, and everyone is scared of her, so no one wants to make any suggestions because she dismisses them straight away.

I think it would be great to send my nephew-to-be to a summer camp for kids like him. He needs to gain confidence so he can do basic things, like order his own food at restaurants. I'm not a member of this family yet, and I have zero desire to tell someone else how to parent their child. Do you have any constructive ideas to give to my fiance's sister to help? We're afraid he'll end up a shut-in in their basement, as he's unable to do anything or think for himself. -- FUTURE AUNTIE IN IOWA

DEAR AUNTIE: You are not yet a family member, and even after you and your fiance are married, you won't be a blood relative. Because the mother is dismissive, perhaps your fiance and his parents should discuss these concerns together with her. Her overprotectiveness may stem from the fact that it took her so long to conceive a child that she's having trouble letting go. It could also be that the boy is developmentally slow. If, after your wedding, you and your husband could invite his nephew along on some outings with you and your son, he might gain from the exposure.

DEAR ABBY: I was in a dysfunctional marriage for more than a decade. Finally, my cheating ex-wife divorced me. In retrospect, it was, hands down, the best thing that ever happened to me. Now, two decades later, I still get angry over the mistreatment I endured. We have an adult child together, so I must see my ex from time to time for life events for our son.

I feel angry and resentful when I know we will have face-to-face interaction. We have clashed at times during these events. So, how do I move forward? I want to no longer carry these resentments, as they don't serve me. People say, "Let it go," and I want to, but I don't know how. Can you give me a map to Let-it-Go Land? -- SICK OF THE FEELING

DEAR SICK: The first step in overcoming a problem is recognizing that you have one. Congratulations on having taken that important first step. Your second step would be to find a licensed psychotherapist and discuss the anger and resentment you feel when you have to see your ex-wife. Your doctor or health insurance company can help you find someone who is qualified.