DEAR ABBY: I'm an active senior man. To keep my beard looking attractive, a hairstylist trims it every two weeks. I've had the same stylist for three years, and we have become good friends, to the point that she has invited me to her home for an evening meal with her family. I have been there several times, but on the last occasion, she did something odd and, I believe, disrespectful.

She is a very attractive 50-year-old lady. Arriving at her home, I was left in the company of her parents while she and her son (and perhaps her husband) prepared the food. When it was finished, she brought me my plate, then served her parents. What shocked me was that she was dressed in what she called a swimsuit. To me, it was the barest thong and bra I had ever seen and two inches from being naked. Earlier that day, when she was trimming my beard, she wore sweatpants and a sweatshirt.

Her excuse for the "swimsuit" was that there was something wrong with a spot on her hip that required a patch, and she couldn't wear clothing over it because it would put too much pressure on the afflicted spot. (I don't buy it.) I felt that, if nothing else, she could have at least put on one of her husband's shirts. I felt embarrassed and insulted. Although I said nothing, I decided never to go to her home again. Should I tell her why if she asks? -- LOOKING GOOD IN COLORADO

DEAR LOOKING GOOD: Your "barber(ella)" wasn't entertaining you alone. Her parents, son and (possibly) her husband were also there. She obviously felt comfortable enough around you that she wore something she usually wears in that environment and had no idea you would react the way you have. From now on, politely refuse her dinner invitations. If she asks why, I don't think it would be rude to level with her that you felt embarrassed she wasn't more covered up. It's the truth.

DEAR ABBY: My wife's family is rather enmeshed. They have never really accepted me and are rude and unkind toward me. Recently, her father's attitude has shifted from rude to downright hostile. He has tried to physically assault me. (I didn't fight back.)

They watch our kids three days a week. I appreciate it and try hard to be a respectful and good person, but I am not sure what to do. My wife is unable or unwilling to take a strong stance against her father's behavior. Any advice? -- PUNISHED IN PENNSYLVANIA

DEAR PUNISHED: There is something wrong with your father-in-law. The next time he lays a hand on you, call the police and have him arrested, as you would any other aggressor. As to your "enmeshed" wife, some joint sessions with a marriage counselor might help her to reorganize her priorities. However, if she can't manage that, you may need to decide if you want to remain married to her or climb out of that snake pit.

DEAR ABBY: My sister, "Blanche," and I didn't grow up together after she turned 13. I was 6 at that time, and our grandmother raised her. We talked on the phone a lot until I was 45 and my husband died. Blanche then convinced me to move to her state. When I received the insurance payout, she talked me into buying a property with two houses -- one for her, and one for me. Then she had us go into business together.

I met someone a year later, and he moved in a year after that. Then my sister started driving a wedge. Blanche has always been manipulative and controlling. She refused to pay rent and wanted to clean my house in exchange for it. After many fights, silent treatment, etc. -- not only me but also with our parents, brother, her daughter and her son-in-law -- my now-fiance and I decided to sell the property and move out of state.

I'm concerned Blanche will give us trouble about moving out. She can barely pay her own bills, let alone pay rent somewhere else. My fiance says it's not our problem, we need to live our lives and staying stuck in a hostile environment is unhealthy. My concern is that Blanche is my sister, and I hate to see her kicked out on the street. What should I do if she refuses to leave? She has received a legal eviction notice that gives her eight months to go. My fiance says we may have to call the sheriff to escort her out. -- DREADING IT IN ARIZONA

DEAR DREADING IT: Your sister has eight months to make other living arrangements, so she isn't going to be "out on the street" overnight. Discuss this messy problem with an attorney and enlist their help. If you can manage it, document the condition of the house she's occupying. Your fiance may be right about your sister, so when the time comes for her to leave, consider having law enforcement present to ensure she doesn't damage your property.

DEAR ABBY: I am a widow. Most of my friends are married. What do you think about them calling and touching base with me only when they are in their cars running errands? They never call from home while they're with their husbands. Are they hiding the fact that they are calling their single friend? I think it's rude to call someone while fighting traffic and making stops like the bank drive-up window.

I have thought about asking them to call me back when they get home, but they sound like they are just too busy to do that. I'm getting to the point where I just don't answer their calls. I also have a married friend who only texts and never talks on the phone. -- AFTERTHOUGHT IN FLORIDA

DEAR AFTERTHOUGHT: Your friends may have busy schedules and little free time, which is why they call you from their cars. They may also prefer that what they discuss with you be just between the two of you, with no one else listening in. I do not think you should take this as personally as you seem to have taken it. For a definitive answer to your question, you must ask your friends why they do this.

DEAR ABBY: My son has completely given up on dating. Whether it's blind dates, casual meetings with members from our church or dating events I pay for and make him go to, he still hasn't found a wife. At 36, he should already have children and a partner, but despite the best efforts of my wife and me, he remains unmarried.

Our son is 6 feet tall, athletic and godly, and he has his own apartment and clears $100k a year. Despite all this, he still doesn't have a wife. It's even reached the point that he gets angry at my wife and me for pressuring him. During a few of the blind dates we set up for him, I watched from afar, and each time he was stood up! How can I ensure my son gets a wife before I grow too old? -- DAD LOSING HOPE IN NEW YORK

DEAR DAD: If you are sincere about this question, STOP EVERYTHING YOU HAVE BEEN DOING. Your son's chances of finding a wife will increase the further you step back. Has your tall, athletic, successful and godly son told you he even wants to be married? As many of the women whose letters I publish express, not all men do.

DEAR ABBY: I'm hoping you can provide some advice on a sensitive subject. Our family of four adult siblings was once very close but, since our parents passed away, has fractured. A brother has moved to another state, and we rarely see him. A sister has a partner nobody can stand whom she talks about incessantly. She took advantage of our parents by taking money and items from their house before and after they passed that were intended for their long-term care.

My younger brother and I, despite all this, miss our family. My sister has not been invited to the out-of-state brother's daughter's wedding, and, I admit, I feel bad. Am I being silly, or is there something I should say about this action that might further fracture our family? -- DISTANCED IN NORTH CAROLINA

DEAR DISTANCED: You are not being silly. What you are missing is the fantasy of what your family "should" be like. However, the wedding is not something you should chime in on. This is your niece's big day, and if you make waves, you will only further alienate yourself from that branch of the family.

DEAR ABBY: I have a male friend who texts me every morning ("Good morning, beautiful lady") and sends flower emojis ("Beautiful flowers for a beautiful lady"). Do you think he has feelings for me? I'm a widow, and he was a good friend of my husband's. He was the best man at our wedding.

It has been so long since I dated that I am out of touch. He asked me to go to a nude campground overnight. I don't know what to think. Help! -- A LITTLE LOST IN KENTUCKY

DEAR LOST: Oh, he's definitely interested. But if the first time he has invited you out is to a nude event, be sure to ascertain exactly what he's interested in before accepting the invitation.