DEAR HARRIETTE: I wanted to offer another option to "Overweight," the woman hurt by her brother's comments about her post-pregnancy weight. Could she not go a step further and ask him to babysit for an hour or two a few times a week, so she can have time to herself, to sleep or cook or exercise? Or could he contribute to a healthy meal delivery subscription? I feel if one points out a problem, one must be willing to be part of the solution. -- All Is Well
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DEAR ALL IS WELL: You and several other readers suggested that the brother should offer to babysit for his sister. Great idea. Stop criticizing and start helping! To all of the family members who think they are being helpful when they share their opinions about new mothers’ bodies, generally speaking, it’s best to keep your mouth shut.