DEAR HARRIETTE: My mother passed away a few months ago, and I miss her so much. I was going through my phone recently and came upon some audio recordings of her talking about her life. Her voice sounds weak, but it was so nice hearing her tell her stories. It was bittersweet, though, as listening to her reminds me of the fact that I can’t hug her or talk to her anymore. Still, I loved hearing her voice.

I want to share these recordings of my mom with my siblings. I do wonder, though, if it will make them have a wave of emotions just as I did. Would it be insensitive of me to do that? How should I address this so that I can be as thoughtful as possible? -- Mama’s Voice

DEAR MAMA’S VOICE: You are so fortunate to have found these recordings! Be sure to preserve them so that you will have them for many years to come. At the very least, transfer them from your phone and put them on a hard drive or cloud storage so that you have a copy you can access if something were to happen to your phone. Before sharing, listen to make sure everything is appropriate and relevant. For example, you might not share one if the sound quality is bad and you can’t decipher the words or if it is redundant or reveals a tender moment that might be better not to relive.

Send a note to your siblings or call them individually and let them know what you found. Speak of the recordings you have found and ask whether they would like to hear them. Send them to the ones who want them.

DEAR HARRIETTE: I’ve been getting close to a man for the past year and a half, and the other day we had a big blow-up. I didn’t like the lax way that he was responding to me, and I wrote him a note saying as much. He got angry and accused me of speaking to him like he was my child. When I attempted to address the issue at hand -- namely, his unresponsiveness -- he got madder. Next thing you know, he had blocked me on social media, knocked me off of a shared email address that we had and summarily ghosted me. I did not expect this. I haven’t heard from him in weeks. I have walked past places where we used to see each other, but he hasn’t been there. I know I should just walk away, but my heart hurts. How could he do that? He’s a grown man. Why wouldn’t he talk to me about the situation rather than completely shut me out? -- Dumped

DEAR DUMPED: Whatever his rationale, this man has made it clear to you that he is done. For him, the relationship is over. Stand down. Do not humiliate yourself by attempting to reconnect with him. Who knows why he reacted so intensely? Sometimes you don’t get an answer when it comes to people’s behavior, but his message couldn’t be clearer: He doesn’t want to talk to you, interact with you or be with you. I’m sorry, but you need to accept this and walk away.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

DEAR HARRIETTE: My daughter graduated from college a few months ago. She got her first career job and decided to move out. I advised her to stay at my home a while longer and use the opportunity to save some money, but she wanted to be on her own, so I supported her decision. Recently, I decided that I might use her bedroom as a sewing space. I set up two desks and a small shelving unit. I shared the news with my daughter, and she was offended. She keeps saying that she’s barely left and I’m pushing her out. I haven’t removed any of her furniture; her bed and knickknacks are still in place for whenever she wants to visit.

I tried to remind my daughter that I never wanted her to leave in the first place, but apparently that doesn’t mean much now that I’ve taken over her room. How do I reassure my daughter that despite the addition of a sewing table, there will always be room for her here? -- Taking Over

DEAR TAKING OVER: Don’t allow yourself to feel guilty. Your daughter made her decision, and you have made yours. Honestly, it is even OK for you to put her knickknacks away and turn the room fully into your sewing room. Leaving a bed there for her to sleep in when she visits is practical and kind and will assure her that she is welcome and remembered. You can remain a safety net for her without allowing her to hold your house hostage.

You can do this with compassion. It was a big deal for her to move out, and she is showing you her fear of cutting this cord, so to speak. Assure her that you will always be there for her. You are proud of her courage to go out there on her own, and she is always welcome to come home.

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have twin sons who are in college at different schools. They are good kids but a bit young for their age. I don’t think either of them has ever dated. I have always taught them that they should have enough money to take a woman out on a date, and right now they aren’t working. I offered to give them some cash to help them in case they do want to take someone on a date, but so far neither has taken me up on it. Have I done something wrong as a mother? Why are they so delayed? -- Arrested Development

DEAR ARRESTED DEVELOPMENT: Everyone matures at their own pace. There is nothing you can do to quicken it, nor should you try. Give your sons space to get their education and build their lives. You can encourage them to meet people and make friends, but there’s no reason to push them into anyone’s arms until they are ready. If they seem content in their lives, let them be. Keep the conversation open so that you learn if there is someone interesting to either of them. Trust that in time someone special may come along.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently started dating someone who’s great in almost every way, but there’s one issue that’s starting to bother me: He's constantly on his phone when we’re together. Whether we’re out to dinner or watching a movie, he’s always scrolling through social media or checking work emails. When I bring it up, he insists he’s just multitasking and that it’s not a big deal. I don’t want to seem needy or controlling, but it makes me feel like he’s not fully present when we spend time together.

I really like this guy, but I’m starting to wonder if this behavior is a red flag or just a bad habit. How do I talk to him about this without sounding like I’m overreacting? Sometimes I’ll even pause mid-conversation to see if he notices, and he rarely does. I’ve tried putting away my own phone to set an example, but it doesn’t seem to help. I miss having meaningful, uninterrupted time with him, especially since our schedules are so busy. I’m worried that if this keeps up, I’ll start to feel emotionally disconnected even though we’re spending time together. -- Distracted

DEAR DISTRACTED: Electronics, especially cellphones, can be huge distractions for people in all aspects of their lives, including personal relationships. Some studies suggest that the way that people are attached to them mimics addictive behavior. Other experts have concluded that, for most people, multitasking is an unproductive myth. In order to get your boyfriend to take you seriously and consider separating from his phone -- at least sometimes -- is to take drastic measures.

Ask your boyfriend to agree on times when your cellphones go in a bowl in the other room on silent. Point out what you have observed about him, and remind him how frustrating it is for you. If he refuses, you may need to call him out or keep track of each time he disconnects from you so he can see how frequent it is.

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a student who says he is mildly autistic. He is eager and engaging in class -- almost too much so. He raises his hand every time there’s an opportunity, often before I have been able to complete a thought. How can I get him to control himself a bit better? I know he likes my class and appreciates that I talk to him a lot and let him participate fully, but he is becoming a distraction to the rest of the class. Also, he has not given me any formal paperwork that provides for accommodations, which is required at our college. Still, I know he is different and have worked hard to support him. -- Creating Boundaries

DEAR CREATING BOUNDARIES: Speak to this student privately. Commend him for being so actively involved in class as you point out that it is also important for him to give other students a chance to participate. Tell him that you cannot call on him every time he raises his hand. Moreover, he should not raise his hand for every question. Explain that it is good manners and thoughtful to allow space for other students to be able to raise their hands and be part of the conversation.

It might be helpful to have this conversation with his academic adviser as well. That person may be able to reach your student and will have more information about any accommodations he may need.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)