DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My sister is my daughter’s favorite adult. Her own kids are grown, and even though she is nearly 15 years older than me, my 12-year-old daughter looks up to her like a cooler second mom.

I really think my sister forgot the hell her own kids put her through at this age, because she gives what I think is terrible advice to my daughter, who then uses her aunt’s advice against me and to defend her bad actions.

I don’t want to cut my sister off from my daughter, but what else can I do to make her influence less in my daughter’s life? --- NOT REALLY UNCOOL MOM

DEAR NOT REALLY UNCOOL MOM: Cutting your daughter off from her aunt could lead to more tension between you and your daughter, and probably wouldn’t do much for your relationship with your sister.

You need to openly tell your sister that, while you’re glad she and your daughter are so close, you have your own ideas of how to raise your child and need her to step back and let you do your job the best way you know how.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My wife has a better-paying job than I do, which I’m more than okay with. She enjoys her work and I love mine. What I don’t like is that she sometimes holds it over my head that she is the bigger money-maker, sometimes making comments in front of family and friends.

I’m afraid if I complain to her about her digs she’ll think I’m just jealous or something. Am I better off keeping my comments to myself? --- SECOND INCOME GUY

DEAR SECOND INCOME GUY: You need to let your wife know that her comments bug you, especially since they could indicate a deeper attitude about your career choice. If she honestly disapproves of it, that’s the kind of resentment that can fester over time and cause major damage to a marriage.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: As part of my job, I have to work late two nights a week. I am usually still at my workstation when the cleaning crew comes in.

There is another guy who sits near me and is on the same schedule. It’s always been my impression of this guy that he’s a bit of a jerk, but he surpasses even that category by how he treats the people who clean the office. He purposely misses his wastebasket, “accidentally” spills coffee and tea all over the breakroom counters and floors, and worst of all, he makes nasty comments about their ethnicity, loud enough that they can’t help but hear him.

I have to work with this guy, but would I be wrong in telling our supervisor, who works alternate nights from us, what’s going on? --- STUCK WITH A JERK

DEAR STUCK WITH A JERK: You don’t mention if you tried speaking to your coworker about his behavior, but I’m guessing from the picture you paint of him, whatever you have to say would most likely not make much of a difference to him.

It’s time to talk to your supervisor about what’s going on when he or she isn’t around. No one should be treated the way this man is treating the cleaning crew, and his attitude towards them is indicative about how he very likely treats other people, and no employer is going to want to deal with potential legal problems because one of their staff members acts the way your coworker does.