DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: We bought our house from an elderly couple who rarely used their back yard, and certainly were not at all noisy.

Here we come with a teen and two tweens. One set of our new neighbors treats us like invaders. First they put up opaque side panels on their back deck, just on the side of our house. Next came the 6 foot stockade fence right behind the existing chain link one, also facing our property.

The latest attempt to pretend we don’t exist was the painting — yes, painting — of all the windows on the side of the house that faces ours.

It isn’t like we have young children screaming around the yard. We moved in late last summer, right before school started, and we have not had so much as an extended family cookout. It’s just our three kids, my husband and me, and we’re barely outside, especially since the weather turned cold.

I haven’t done more than attempt to exchange brief, cordial greetings with these people, who appear to be roughly the same age as my husband and me, yet we’re made to feel like we’re sleeper agents or lepers or something else that’s as unwanted as can be.

We’ve done nothing to these people, so why should we be treated like this? --- DON’T LIKE THE TREATMENT

DEAR DON’T LIKE THE TREATMENT: The neighbor-proofing is all the information you need to know you’re not living next-door to the friendly, outgoing type. I find the window-painting weird and over-the-top, but if it makes them happy, so be it.

These people are clearly not revving up the welcome wagon, so I’d stop taking it personally and chalk it up to their strange preferences, not anything your family brought to the block.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My daughter works hard to have a nice life and has supported herself since before she graduated college. She is a bright young woman, but like so many others I have known, she has desperately bad taste in men.

Her current boyfriend, who works very parttime, just moved in with her. She owns her own condo, so there’s no rent, but there is a mortgage and all the expenses of owning a home.

I try to be pleasant to this guy, but my son told me the boyfriend was “joking” about how he not only found a sweet girl, but also a “sweet ride.” Both my son and I interpret that to mean this young man is a gigolo-in-the-making, and my daughter is his first target.

I have a good relationship with my daughter, but I cannot imagine she would take well to my telling, or even suggesting, that her boyfriend is using her.

Do I risk saying something or just do the non-interfering dad act forever? --- THE GUY’S A BUM

DEAR THE GUY’S A BUM: Don’t you hate this part of parenthood — the having to zip it, lock it, put it in your pocket? But it may not do much for you or the present situation to openly object to your daughter’s boyfriend becoming her live-in. You might venture a polite inquiry into what material support she expects from her new roommate, such as will he be pitching in on any of the regular expenses or maintenance chores. But you know your daughter best, and if you’re of the opinion even general questions will cause problems, then it might not be a bad idea to put it off for a bit and see how the new living arrangement shakes out. It’s entirely possible there’re no issues your daughter can see, at least for now, but that could change over time.

DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: I have been seeing someone for the past few weeks and things seemed to be going well until I found a gun locked up in his closet when he asked me to get something down from the top shelf. He told me it’s registered, has a gun lock on it, and he has taken firearm safety training.

That’s all good, I suppose, but it still makes me feel uneasy, and I told him I won’t let my three-year-old daughter come over to his place as long as the gun is there.

Am I overreacting? --- DON’T LIKE GUNS

DEAR DON’T LIKE GUNS: For all the precautions your friend appears to be taking to keep the gun safely stowed away, it’s ultimately up to you to do what you believe is in the best interest of your daughter and yourself. If you’re not comfortable spending time with your child at your new friend’s home, why not try finding other places where you can all get to know each other better, and see how things go from there.