DEAR HARRIETTE: I think I’m still in love with my ex. Is it possible it just wasn’t the right time for us?
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My ex and I ran into each other for the first time in a long time at a party back in December, and it’s as if we picked up where we left off. There was some subtle avoidance at first, but he checked on me throughout the night and insisted that he drive me home afterward. I always appreciated how he would take care of me.
Since it was only one night, I decided not to make it more than it was. I didn’t want to kick off some on-again, off-again pattern. Then last week he reached out and invited me to see his music group perform -- something I used to do when we were in a relationship. All these reminders of the past are stirring up feelings I had for him, and it makes me wonder if I’m still in love with him. If so, should I act on it? -- Right Timing
DEAR RIGHT TIMING: Take a pause and assess the situation as objectively as you can. Write down what worked about your relationship in the past -- and what didn’t. What made you happy about being with him? What prompted you to end the relationship?
If your assessment suggests that there could be something real that’s worth exploring, go forward. Be sure to talk it through so that you both go in with open eyes.