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DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I was hoping a fresh perspective from someone who isn’t my therapist could help me. I’m 28, have had one girlfriend in college, and have otherwise never talked to a single girl in ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am a 45-year-old single woman, also a mom of an elementary school child. I’m pretty good looking, fit, I think I’m smart and funny. I have close relationships with friends and fa... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve known this couple for about 3 years, and we’ve done a lot of things together through the years. Being their third wheel was never a problem, and I love them both. They were th... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m 42 now. About a year ago, my relationship of five years ended. She broke up with me over sexual incompatibility issues, and likely other ones she never told me about, either be... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So this is a very hard issue for me. I have been divorced for 2 years from my wife. We were together for twelve and a half years and have three boys together. While I was stationed... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: If you’re demisexual, how fast is too fast to propose? How do you know when the New Relationship Energy has worn off?... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Flirting, showing attraction to others, and all dating skills are skills, right? And like all skills, require making mistakes and learning from them in order to get better, right? ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m not sure if I’m venting or looking for advice, but I need to share what I’m feeling. I’m really struggling and it’s hard to see a way forward.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I was hanging out with some new friends of mine yesterday and we were having some drinks and joking around when one of them turned to me and said “You’ve never dated and it shows.”... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m an older experienced dater (41 yr old lesbian) and have a higher body count than most people expect. These almost all happened between my mid 20s to 30s.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I feel completely and utterly hopeless. I’m sacred, afraid and have massive inferiority complex about a lot from my body, my desirability and my sexuality.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I tried to search for that sort of thing on this site, but I can’t find anything about it. This is unusual because the internet is literally full with it. Especially Reddit.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Hi, it’s me again. I left a question earlier this year about my polyamorous boyfriend calling me controlling and now I’m back. I eventually broke up with him, reluctantly, and we w... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: This isn’t really a dating question (we’re married) but I hope you’ll still consider answering it.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have an ex-girlfriend who I’ve since maintained a friendship with. When we broke up, it was tenuous as break ups often are, but we both saw it coming and ended things amicably no... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am literally not even 20 minutes removed from my first (and probably last) experience with a sex worker. Oh man. So a little background on 1. what led to this moment, and then 2. ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: You’ve addressed similar questions before, but I wanted to come at my problem in more specific terms. I’m a 42M virgin. Never been in a relationship. Lots of reasons, but I would s... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: It’s been a while and I read your article on “Leveling Up” and after the initial trauma and breakdown of not feeling good enough I wanted to paint a picture of all the progress I’v... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m 26 years old and have barely any experience with women, I’ve had about 5 or 6 dates total and slept with one woman, though I felt forced into that and found out that I don’t en... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I just moved to a country different from my home country, and I met a Scandinavian guy. During the first few days of talking to him, I always had the feeling that he had no interes... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been reading your blog for quite some time now and I absolutely love it ! You provide a lot of advice and a lot of food for thought, sometimes brutally honest, sometimes chall... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So my girlfriend struggles with jealousy and her ex bf cheating on her. I was dumb and got nudes from other women while we were dating. I explained it to her it was my fault and it... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Me and my husband have been together 17 years. The past 2 months, he swears up and down that I have another boyfriend with a secret phone and ear phones. I know for a fact that I’m... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been seeing a friend of mine for 8 months now. I proposed that we start dating, which I wanted and still want, but she didn’t. During this time, we’ve ‘broken up’ a few times,... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I never thought your letters were true until this happened to me… ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So, a couple years ago I sent you a letter about how to be more vulnerable and open up to others. This is my update on that, with a follow-up question.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Hey Doc, so I feel like I waste years basically doing useless crap. I went to college for essentially visual arts (the only “skill” I’ve had) and even then I doubt my skills aren’t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve written in before and greatly appreciated your advice. I (25 M) have since met a lovely girl (22) and we’ve been together for about six months. She’s my first serious relation... more