DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I need some help figuring out what to do, and I will be upfront and say I fracked up and I caused this crisis in my life and I know I was wrong, but I still don’t know what to do ne... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been watching a number of your videos lately, and they’ve been a great help to me so far.  However, I’m finding that I’m in a situation at the moment that I don’t think has bee... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m finding that, throughout the pandemic, a lot of long-term couples have broken up – including a few mixed-orientation ones where I’ve known the woman for a while, but never imagi... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: For the last month and a half or so, I went on some dates with a girl (who we’ll call L, for the purposes of this letter) who I met through Bumble. I really liked her, as we have si... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Long time lurker, first time writer. I met this girl back in April, before all this madness, and we really hit off. She gave me her number and over the next months we chatted almost... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: After a few years of non-dating, I (F, mid-30s from Denmark) bumped into this awesome British guy (M, mid-30s) and we just hit it off. It was one of those meetings that lasted 6-7 h... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I woke up in March and April of 2020 to the fact that I was an obese virgin that had no chance whatsoever of finding a girl to be in a relationship with, let alone just hook up with... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: am a big fan of yours. You have helped me get through my feelings of inadequacy of being a virgin in my late 20s (By the way, where are all my virgins at? *laughs*), and my feelings... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m in my first new relationship in 10 years and things are going really great! We’ve been together for over 3 months now and we really love and care about each other. However, due ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I (m20) just made a huge mistake. I’ve been home from college for about a month now, with another two months left before in-person classes resume, and the cabin fever has set in har... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 30 year old male, living on my own and mostly independent. I’m also in college after 8 years, continuing my education. When it comes to public things or social situations, I t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So, first things first: my partner (38NB, they/them) and I (28F) both have histories of abusive relationships. Their most recent partner before they met me was physically, sexually,... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I really love your blog and I have used it a lot to gain confidence in dating and put myself out there over the years. I am an overweight 27 year old male, I am trying to lose weigh... more