DEAR SOMEONE ELSE’S MOM: My fiancé and I are paying for most of the cost of our wedding. We extended our engagement an extra year to be able to save some additional money to put towards it.
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We have been lucky in finding an affordable venue and caterer, both of which have very good to excellent ratings.
When it comes to flowers I have never been a big fan of expensive arrangements of real flowers, and my mother and I have found some truly beautiful artificial arrangements for the tables and the bouquets and boutonnieres. We were able to pull it all together for less than $350.
My future sister-in-law has said very out loud how much nicer real flowers are and that they are much more tasteful than the cheap fake ones my mother and I picked out.
I am trying hard to not blow up at her over this, but do you think I should try so hard? --- HAPPY WITH MY FLOWERS
DEAR HAPPY WITH MY FLOWERS: It’s your wedding, and that’s the general message to send your future sister-in-law’s way.
I wouldn’t advise your having a big confrontation with her on the subject of the flowers specifically. A firm, calm assertion that you have your own vision of how you want your day to go would perhaps be a better idea with longer-lasting results.
Asserting yourself now sends a clear message that you’re going to make your own decisions not only for your wedding, but moving forward as well.