DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been friends with this guy for two years, and over time, I’ve started to feel like our connection might be more than just friendship. He’s always been kind, thoughtful and supportive, and I really enjoy spending time with him. Lately, I’ve caught myself looking at him differently and wondering if he feels the same way about me. There are little moments -- like when we lock eyes, share a laugh or have deeper conversations -- that make me think he might like me as more than just a friend, too.

The problem is that we’re both shy, and neither of us seems willing to take the first step. I don’t want to ruin our friendship by misreading the situation or making things awkward, but at the same time, I can’t shake the feeling that there’s potential for something more between us. I’m torn because I value our friendship so much, and I don’t want to risk losing it. I also can’t help but wonder what could happen if one of us were brave enough to make a move. Should I wait for him to say something, or is there a way for me to express how I feel without putting too much pressure on him or our friendship? -- Timing

DEAR TIMING: Be brave and go for it. Invite your friend to do something that involves just the two of you. You know him, so think about what he likes to do for fun. Is there a festival or community activity that you two could attend that would be fun but not too intimate? Is there a movie that you’ve discussed? What activity would interest both of you? Ask him if he would like to do this with you, and see how he responds. Since you are not asking him to date you, this can be a safe first step.

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have the privilege of working from home as an executive assistant to a veterinary medicine professional. My job requires me to manage a lot of on-call appointments and real-time scheduling, which demands focus and attention. While I enjoy the flexibility of working from home, it comes with its own set of challenges. One of the biggest disruptions is my neighbor, “Aurora,” who has a habit of dropping by unannounced. Although I genuinely enjoy her company and value our friendship, these interruptions are starting to affect my productivity. It’s becoming increasingly difficult to balance being polite with staying on top of my responsibilities. I don’t want to hurt her feelings or come across as unfriendly, but I need to find a way to set clear boundaries. How can I communicate this in a way that preserves our friendly relationship while ensuring I can focus on my work? -- Need Space

DEAR NEED SPACE: Get or make a sign that says, “Busy Working” or, “Do Not Disturb -- Working,” and hang it on your door. Or, if necessary, lock your door. Talk to your neighbor and remind her that, yes, you work from home, but you do have real office hours and responsibilities. As much as you like her, you cannot stop in the middle of your day to chat with her. You have to get your work done. Ask her to honor your request that she not disturb you during the workday.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been trying to declutter my home for months, focusing on makeup, dresses and other items that no longer serve a purpose, but I keep getting stuck. Every time I start sorting through my belongings, I find myself emotionally attached to certain things, even though they’re no longer necessary. The challenge is especially difficult with items that were given to me by my ex-boyfriend, whom I loved deeply. These things hold sentimental value, and letting them go feels like letting go of a part of my past, which I’m still trying to move on from. I know that decluttering would bring me peace and a sense of accomplishment, but my attachment to the past -- particularly these items -- is making it hard to move forward. -- Decluttering Dilemma

DEAR DECLUTTERING DILEMMA: Consider hiring a decluttering specialist to come into your home and work with you to purge those things that no longer serve you. Things often carry emotional weight and can be hard to relinquish, but an outsider -- especially a professional who has no attachment to these items -- may be able to help you sort through and discard the past more easily.

A DIY solution can be to get some boxes and label them for things you want to give away, throw away and keep. As you look at each item, decide where it will go. As expert organizer Marie Kondo has advised, thank the item for what it offered you and bid it goodbye. Her process allows you to acknowledge the role that things have served in your life before releasing them. This may help you to complete the mourning process from your ex, express gratitude for what that relationship meant to you and move on.

DEAR HARRIETTE: The letter from "Ballet Worries," the parent whose daughter was facing pressure to diet from her dance teachers, struck a chord with me, and I wanted to share another perspective with you.

Even as a leisure student of ballet from ages 10 to 12, I felt pressure from the teacher to be thinner. The timing of her messaging was harmful, especially since I was self-consciously going through puberty at the time. It took over 20 years to let go of the body shame, self-criticism and constant comparison caused by her comments.

It is an unfortunate reality of the profession that thin dancers are preferred. Around 16.4% of ballet dancers have eating disorders (pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/24277724). I've observed that ballet is a traditional school of dance based on a certain aesthetic. Historically, male choreographers preferred dancers of a specific height, weight and girth to create a certain look onstage. Unfortunately, as ballet is about continuing these traditions and choreography, the genre has not moved with the social times regarding feminine beauty.

I appreciate your advice that the parent encourage the daughter to take care of herself and keep her passion alive. It might also serve the young dancer to explore other forms of professional dance. For example, modern dance is ballet-based and inclusive of all strong, powerful body types. -- Arts Lover

DEAR ARTS LOVER: Thank you for your insights and thoughtful letter.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions toaskharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)

DEAR HARRIETTE: I’ve rented a bed space in Manila, Philippines, while pursuing my master’s degree, and I share the space with a roommate. While I appreciate having someone to share the rent, her habit of leaving a mess in our shared bedroom area is becoming unbearable. I am the type of person who always wants to maintain a clean and tidy space -- I admit I have some obsessive-compulsive behaviors. I’ve tried dropping hints, and I’ve even directly asked her to make more of an effort, but nothing seems to change. It’s frustrating because I don’t want to constantly be the one cleaning up after her. I also don’t want to create hostility in our home or cause unnecessary tension between us. I understand that we have different living habits, but I need to find a way to balance our shared responsibilities. -- Roommate Woes

DEAR ROOMMATE WOES: It is absolutely fair for you to sit down with your roommate and remind her that the two of you are sharing this space and that you need her to do her part to keep it tidy. Point out exactly what disturbs you, such as clothing on the floor, dishes unwashed, bed unmade -- whatever your grievances are. Ask her to tend to these things in the moment so that the room stays organized. Know that, ultimately, you will likely have to move out. You can’t pressure or guilt someone into becoming neat. Since you are in school and are focused on improving your life, do your best to create the healthiest, most productive environment for you to be successful. Look for another room to share. If possible, meet the roommate and ask a few questions before you move in.

DEAR HARRIETTE: I recently started working out due to health and weight issues. I was diagnosed with Type 2 diabetes, and my doctor advised me to establish a routine alongside dietary changes. I joined a fitness group with friends, but I feel constantly judged because I can’t keep up with their pace. Although I know they mean well, their comments about my fitness level are starting to discourage me rather than motivate me. I don’t want to give up, but I also don't want to feel this way every time I exercise with them. I feel the pressure to match their standards, which only makes it harder to stay motivated. -- Fitness Frenzy

DEAR FITNESS FRENZY: First, I want to commend you for taking action for your health and your life. It is not easy to lose weight, start an exercise regimen or keep it up. It takes discipline and time, and it helps a lot when you have encouragement. Do you think you can find another group to join that might be more positive? This group does not sound like the best fit for you if they are not being supportive.

I will add that it’s possible that you are being too judgmental of yourself. At the beginning of the process of changing your life, it can seem insurmountable. Everybody around you may seem to be better than you are. If that’s happening to you, don’t give up. Stop comparing yourself to others. Focus on yourself and your incremental improvements. Cheer for yourself. Do try to find another group that better matches your fitness level.

(Harriette Cole is a lifestylist and founder of DREAMLEAPERS, an initiative to help people access and activate their dreams. You can send questions to askharriette@harriettecole.com or c/o Andrews McMeel Syndication, 1130 Walnut St., Kansas City, MO 64106.)