DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I love your work! I’m a female and your work gives me hope in so many ways. You remind me that men, woman and all humans identifying inside of or outside of the binary system all ha... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So, before I say anything on the topic of The Grimes Test, I must say I’m not against the idea itself. It’s accurate in every regard. The problem is in how I personally sit beside i... more

Doctor’s Note: Today’s letter deals with discussions of self-harm.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: An almost 28-year old man here with a lot on his mind he’s trying to get sorted out.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So I was in a relationship for 6 years. I had step-kids I love and I thought everything was going well. At least, until my now ex-fiancé decided to cheat on me with my 2 “best frien... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My partner (he/him) of five years violated the boundaries/understandings of our monogamous relationship by receiving a one-way sex act from a friend of his. While I’ve agreed to sta... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been in a relationship with my girlfriend for four years now. For a lot of that time, she has struggled with mental health, including an eating disorder, anxiety and depression... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I was wondering if I could get some general advice about boundaries.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Only found your site today and rather than mulling over contacting advice columns as I have in the past I thought I’d just jump in and give it a try.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My entire family is dead, and I’ve been living with my only close and reasonably well-off friend and her husband since losing my job and housing in the summer of 2020. I have severe... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Is it wrong for me to fear women? Every time I try to talk to a girl my age they never talk back to me. They just give me weird look stare or roll their eyes. All the time. I have a... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am making active changes in my life, for personal growth. I do dialectical behavior therapy, and have PTSD counselors. There were issues in the past and I didn’t deal with them, s... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am recently in the process of leaving my toxic job with a little bit of savings and no concrete plan for what’s next. I can’t even think about work and job stuff without feeling d... more