DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I was inspired to write this based on your recent article about the kinds of men women like, and how you’ve talked about archetypes in previous columns. Do you have any advice for o... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I (33/Male) have been following your site for a while now and have found it enormously helpful in changing my outlook. For a long time I have had a very negative view of myself, bas... more

Doctor’s Note: Today’s letter deals with discussions of self-harm.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am a 21 year old girl with severe self esteem issues. I have a full face that is extremely plain and my smile is hideous. My hair is nice, except for the color, it’s a clingy oran... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 46 year old man and, for no obvious reason, I’ve never had sex. I’ve made out with three women my entire life. I’ve pretty much given up trying to lose it at this point.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: This is my first time actually writing something like this, but I’ll do my best:... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I guess I have questions… or maybe thoughts? It’s complicated.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Only found your site today and rather than mulling over contacting advice columns as I have in the past I thought I’d just jump in and give it a try.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Long-time reader, first time writing in. My problem is quite minor, and not technically a “dating” issue, but it’s been weighing on me regardless and I’m hoping you’ll have some ins... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: This is absolutely the first time I’ve ever heard of you, but I read a few articles and thought, ‘Wow, I hope he’ll answer mine,’ because, while the articles I’ve already read do sp... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My entire family is dead, and I’ve been living with my only close and reasonably well-off friend and her husband since losing my job and housing in the summer of 2020. I have severe... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I see a lot of advice about what confidence looks like in men (body language, especially), but I don’t know what confidence looks like for me as a woman. Most flirting behavior for ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been reading your columns on and off for about ten years now. I’ll admit that I often sneer at some of the advice because it seems so far-fetched or inapplicable to myself. But... more