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DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: To start with thanks for all the work you do, the advice you give is always appreciated!... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m sure you get messages like this all the time, but I’m at a point where I feel like nothing will get better for me. I’ve always felt like a social reject, although I don’t strugg... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve thought about writing in before but I’ve never had enough real motivation until now. I’ll try to keep it brief. ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have been an avid reader of your blog for a few years and have finally mustered the courage to ask for advice. I really enjoy the laidback approach to answering some really seriou... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I tried searching your site to find any stories about this, but didn’t find anything in the results mainly by title. Anyway, to the point, I wanted to ask if you have any tips in da... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 30 year old male, living on my own and mostly independent. I’m also in college after 8 years, continuing my education. When it comes to public things or social situations, I t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: So, first things first: my partner (38NB, they/them) and I (28F) both have histories of abusive relationships. Their most recent partner before they met me was physically, sexually,... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: This is a pretty minor problem compared to a lot of the ones that you deal with, but I’ve really valued your advice over the years, so I thought I’d send it in anyway.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Back in december 2019, I joined a twitch channel to help develop my skill at a certain VR game and ended up sticking around that channel up until now. The person doing the streaming... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m not sure if this is the kind of question to take on, because it’s not about me specifically, but about my brother (30) and his girlfriend (29). They’ve been in a relationship fo... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: The previous year I wrote you a message here regarding “How to get over someone”. It was about a girl that I thought she was perfect for me but the timing was wrong. She said that e... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a recently turned 30 cis woman. I am also a recovering alcoholic who worked at the rehab that helped me. Recently I relapsed, due to several factors, but the big one was helping... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I really love your blog and I have used it a lot to gain confidence in dating and put myself out there over the years. I am an overweight 27 year old male, I am trying to lose weigh... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: How do I stop feeling bad about lack of sex and not being able to get it? This has been an issue for me pre- and post-COVID. I’m a thirty-something heterosexual male who’s never ide... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Hope you are well and safe. I am a 28 year old single guy who has never been in a relationship or had sex, just kissing stages. I just have this query which has been bugging me and ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a single female and have a lover for the last 3 years now. I could tell during the first time we hung out there was a strong mutual attraction. About 2 weeks after we first met ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: My partner and I separated three months ago after two and a half years of being together. We had initially been dating long distance, and after the first year we decided that I woul... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I appreciate you’re not a medical doctor so can’t comment on potential physical causes for this issue, but I’m not even sure where to start looking for advice on this that doesn’t i... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a black woman and I have been dating a white man for 5 years. He is a Republican from a family of Democrats. When George Floyd hit, he marched in 3 BLM marches and helped to org... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am 29, male, cis, of Indian descent although very much western (and was born in the US), and am trying to kickstart a romantic life that I left behind.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m in a mess. I was supposed to get married this summer until we postponed for COVID; then two months ago my fiancé confessed to cheating on me. Not like once or twice, but probabl... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost 11 years. We’re best friends and very happy. I love him very much and know I plan on being with him for the long run. We get along with each o... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have a series of problems, four points that I desperately wanted to address and have answers to. Just a note, I may well bring this up in case it changes anything, but I am diagno... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a woman dating a man, I need help and you seem to be good at this stuff.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am a 25 year old homosexual male. My boyfriend and I have been together a little over a year and a half. I love him dearly but I’m not 100% positive that he’s the man I want to ma... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I have an issue that I don’t really know how to process. Well, it might be two, depending on how you look at it. It makes me feel icky, for lack of a better word. I wanted to write ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I recently reconnected with a sexual partner from my past. We’ve always kept in touch over the past 8 years, but are now trying to have a “normal” intimate, next level relationship.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve enjoyed your YouTube channel and just bought your book! I really love your breakdown of topics from both the male and especially the female perspective. Listening to your work ... more