DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am writing you with the hope you can help me. I’m a woman in my mid-twenties, recently married to my boyfriend of 6+ years. I love him very much and the sole reason for this lette... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I need to get your opinion on something that’s happened to me several times now. Here’s what happens: I meet someone, we get along great, we start dating and have sex. Then we get t... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Thank you for your articles they’re really helpful.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Hope you find the time to read this heart-breaking story.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I hope you’re having a good holiday season. In fact, that’s why I’m writing to you: I don’t want to ruin the holidays with my issues. So here’s a quick run down of my backstory: my ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m writing you because I’m in a situation that I never really imagined I’d be in. To give you some background, I’m like a lot of the men that write to you; I’m a younger 20-somethi... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I'm 34, never had a girlfriend, don't really work or even have a post secondary education. I have been on two dates with the same women in 2010 which was basically two free dinners ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been reading your blogs and watching your videos for a few months now, and would like your input on something. So, I’m a guy who struggles with vulnerability and opening up.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been reading your column for quite a while and it’s been helping me out alot lately but if feels like I just ran into a brick wall regarding my progress.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m sorry to bother you and you may have gotten this question a thousand times. But I am very curious as to why my husband leaves the house with a sex toy (a penis ring) in his pock... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m a 31-year-old straight man who’s been dating a 38-year-old bi woman for about 5 months. Despite our age difference we feel like we are on exactly the same level. We’re both weir... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve followed your column for a while now and noticed how much of what you say of being in a good place for a relationship matches with what I was always told growing up. Basically,... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Thanks for writing such a female-friendly advice column for men. It’s very refreshing.  However, I’m a woman and I need some help too!  ... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m an incel loser and most women ignore me or are downright hostile, but I sometimes catch girls out with their guy checking me out, I think.... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Near the end of the summer, one of my friends really pushed me to try online dating after he met his then-gf. At the tail end of August, I created a Hinge profile and to my surprise... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Hi, as a super shy person that’s has the hardest time talking to someone for the first time, I wanted to ask for tips or advice on asking a woman from the gym out?... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: This letter undoubtedly starts out like so many you’ve seen before. Hi, I’m a twenty-six-year-old cis male, an introverted nerd on the autism spectrum, and I’ve never had sex, a rel... more


DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: A woman asked online “what does intimacy mean for you beyond sex?” and I replied “cuddles and kisses” and 50 women replied “trust/vulnerability/openness”

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DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m twenty-four years old and I went through my first break up about 6 months ago. She was basically my first everything, and it has pushed me into a really depressive state. Not o... more


DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: Here are the facts:
– long distance relationship for five years
– had a shared Google drive where we saved nudes, lewds, love letters, etc.
– the ex pays for it, but we both upload... more


DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’ve been reading your website for a while now and figured it was time I shoot a message your way, especially as right now I’m at my wits end for what to do with myself.... more


DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I’m young now, but haven’t found love yet, and I’m scared I never will. I just wanted to know, is it scientifically impossible for a postmenopausal woman to find true love/sexually... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I know this is probably a bit outside the norm for questions you answer, but I’ve gotten my first online crush with someone I met on a discord server. It is also my first crush on a... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I am a teenager who has a small dilemma: I often get crushes on people or fictional characters who are conventionally unattractive. They can be overweight, ugly, have terrible perso... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I hope you had a good vacation. I’m a longtime off-and-on reader and like how your advice is compassionate and sane, and most importantly doesn’t explain normal human behavior in te... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I read you a lot, and I think you have amazing advice for men and women alike. I especially appreciate the idea of a pre-date date as a vibe check before you invest a whole bunch of... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: I found you on Google and I had some questions:... more

DEAR DR. NERDLOVE: recently confessed to a cute new guy at my school, we share the same class, our class in particular has a groupchat on a messaging with all our classmates inside. Prom is coming up ... more